"The Honeymoon Effect: A state of bliss, passion, energy, and health
resulting from a huge love. Your life is so beautiful that you can’t wait to
get up to start a new day and thank the Universe that you are alive." This book focuses on the Honeymoon Effect and how we can
create that in our lives as well as how we bring about its demise. The author
does an excellent job of explaining the demise of the Honeymoon Effect, but the
book does not fully address the question of how to create it. Most of the
explanation centers on the science of attraction and the pursuit of long-term
bonding in addition to the author's own relationship with his wife. He talks
about how we are biologically driven to seek and maintain a long-term
relationship with someone due to our hormones and being part of a larger
pattern in the natural world, which seeks to create greater harmony and
community. He explains that in higher organisms, "coupling is fundamentally
about bonding", not only reproduction. He talks about the importance of
vibrations and their role in communication between organisms. Emotions are
vibrations, which we should listen to order to determine whether a relationship
enhances our energy, supports us, or not. Thus, we should engage in
relationships that feel good and can attract them by focusing on feel-good
thoughts. He talks about the role of subconscious programming in how we
approach our relationships and roots most of his advice for creating the
Honeymoon Effect on clearing negative patterns that we received from childhood
or pre-birth conditioning. He also talks about using the bonding of noble gases
as a model for creating the Honeymoon Effect in our lives. "Noble gases
already spin in perfect balance", but "will seek bonding . . . . with
another" when in an excited state, "so it can share that
excitement" hence we should follow their example by finding wholeness and
balance within ourselves before looking for a partner to share our joy with. He
shares the story of how he met and developed a relationship with his wife
Margaret from both of their perspectives, including where they started from
emotionally, based on past relationships and childhood experiences. There is
also an appendix with a great number of resources for reprogramming your
subconscious mind.
All of this is very
good and helpful information, but I don't think it fully addresses the question
of how to create the Honeymoon Effect in our lives because in order to do that,
we would need to know what that would look like. The author describes how it
feels, but does not fully define the qualities and relational dynamics of such
a relationship. He leaves it up to the reader to determine what a blissful
relationship is for them, advising the reader to get really clear about what
you want because you will attract what has not been specified based on your
subconscious programming. He acknowledges the trial and error aspect of
creating the ideal relationship, but at the same time, how can one create
something when one does not understand what that is? I think it would have been
helpful to share what is really involved like the depth of understanding,
support, intimacy, affection, and appreciation for one's partner as well as the
personal growth, commitment, and relationship skills required to achieve those
things. We get examples from his relationship and another couple's, but not the
full picture.
I do believe this
book has a lot of information to help you attract a good relationship, but
whether it will have the Honeymoon Effect depends on whether you are able to
recognize and discern such a relationship. A big part of that is recognizing
and clearing the subconscious conditioning that keeps you from attracting the
Honeymoon Effect. The author states that one needs to look at the parts of
their life that they struggle with to understand where that conditioning is.
That is true. Clearing subconscious programming will bring one closer to the
ideal relationship, but one needs to have a clear sense of what that is for
them in order to achieve it.
I like writing that
I can visualize and connect to my heart. I liked the romance of noble gases and
stories from the author's life, but had difficulty relating to some other
examples like elements, lasers, and waves, so I could not connect emotionally
to the overall narrative. Those with a more scientific orientation may enjoy
the examples provided and get greater pleasure from reading it.
I received a free
copy of this book from the publisher for review. However, the opinions stated
are my own.
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