Tuesday, June 25, 2013

"The Honeymoon Effect: The Science of Creating Heaven on Earth": A Review



 

"The Honeymoon Effect: A state of bliss, passion, energy, and health resulting from a huge love. Your life is so beautiful that you can’t wait to get up to start a new day and thank the Universe that you are alive." This book focuses on the Honeymoon Effect and how we can create that in our lives as well as how we bring about its demise. The author does an excellent job of explaining the demise of the Honeymoon Effect, but the book does not fully address the question of how to create it. Most of the explanation centers on the science of attraction and the pursuit of long-term bonding in addition to the author's own relationship with his wife. He talks about how we are biologically driven to seek and maintain a long-term relationship with someone due to our hormones and being part of a larger pattern in the natural world, which seeks to create greater harmony and community. He explains that in higher organisms, "coupling is fundamentally about bonding", not only reproduction. He talks about the importance of vibrations and their role in communication between organisms. Emotions are vibrations, which we should listen to order to determine whether a relationship enhances our energy, supports us, or not. Thus, we should engage in relationships that feel good and can attract them by focusing on feel-good thoughts. He talks about the role of subconscious programming in how we approach our relationships and roots most of his advice for creating the Honeymoon Effect on clearing negative patterns that we received from childhood or pre-birth conditioning. He also talks about using the bonding of noble gases as a model for creating the Honeymoon Effect in our lives. "Noble gases already spin in perfect balance", but "will seek bonding . . . . with another" when in an excited state, "so it can share that excitement" hence we should follow their example by finding wholeness and balance within ourselves before looking for a partner to share our joy with. He shares the story of how he met and developed a relationship with his wife Margaret from both of their perspectives, including where they started from emotionally, based on past relationships and childhood experiences. There is also an appendix with a great number of resources for reprogramming your subconscious mind.

All of this is very good and helpful information, but I don't think it fully addresses the question of how to create the Honeymoon Effect in our lives because in order to do that, we would need to know what that would look like. The author describes how it feels, but does not fully define the qualities and relational dynamics of such a relationship. He leaves it up to the reader to determine what a blissful relationship is for them, advising the reader to get really clear about what you want because you will attract what has not been specified based on your subconscious programming. He acknowledges the trial and error aspect of creating the ideal relationship, but at the same time, how can one create something when one does not understand what that is? I think it would have been helpful to share what is really involved like the depth of understanding, support, intimacy, affection, and appreciation for one's partner as well as the personal growth, commitment, and relationship skills required to achieve those things. We get examples from his relationship and another couple's, but not the full picture.

I do believe this book has a lot of information to help you attract a good relationship, but whether it will have the Honeymoon Effect depends on whether you are able to recognize and discern such a relationship. A big part of that is recognizing and clearing the subconscious conditioning that keeps you from attracting the Honeymoon Effect. The author states that one needs to look at the parts of their life that they struggle with to understand where that conditioning is. That is true. Clearing subconscious programming will bring one closer to the ideal relationship, but one needs to have a clear sense of what that is for them in order to achieve it.

I like writing that I can visualize and connect to my heart. I liked the romance of noble gases and stories from the author's life, but had difficulty relating to some other examples like elements, lasers, and waves, so I could not connect emotionally to the overall narrative. Those with a more scientific orientation may enjoy the examples provided and get greater pleasure from reading it.


I received a free copy of this book from the publisher for review. However, the opinions stated are my own. 

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Monday, February 27, 2012

Seeing the Good All Around Us

Seeing the good is not about masking or sugarcoating what is around us, but being open to the greater possibility of beauty and value within everything. I can see the good within me by recognizing the value I bring to what I do, the people I help, the beauty within.  And likewise for other people as well. I can recognize the good in my life in my environment, the people I meet, and the experiences I have. Goodness can be found in varying forms and quantities, from the heavily flawed to the pristine. Goodness is not about perfection, but beauty and value. Where is the beauty in your life? What value have you contributed to the world today whether to yourself, others, or the environment?

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Realizing the Greater Meaning of Our Lives

It was after feeling frustrated once again about what do with my life, that I recognized the answer. I just needed to allow. I just needed to get off the computer, the internet, and allow the silence that would give me relief. I turned to my notebook and started writing affirmations as they came to me. And then, after some stops and starts, I recognized that the answer was within, that I needed to see more of the meaning to recognize it. Sometimes, the answer is not realizing MORE, but seeing what is already there. We are all here to realize the higher good of the Universe. And we start doing that by opening ourselves up to it. When you feel lack, open yourself to the greater beauty and meaning that is all around and within us. Open yourself up to the greater good that is around all of us.

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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

The Soul of Living is Love

Why do we live?


To realize love. 


How do we empower ourselves?


Through love.


What is the meaning of life?


To love, realize the highest good of all. 

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Friday, January 27, 2012

Revitalizing the Soul of Life

I find that getting too focused on the particulars, the daily tasks, is what drains me. But staying connected to the deeper meaning, the greater vision, fuels my spirit and keeps me motivated. There is a renewed vitality when I approach life this way. Going downstream, allowing the ease, is also key to maintaining the flow and harmony of life.

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Allowing the Answer

How do we connect to the deeper meaning of our lives? If it was as simple as thinking or acting our way to the answer, we would have done it. But it is not that simple. The only way we can discover the deeper meaning of our lives is by allowing it. Allowing is about letting in the ease. Tune into how you feel until the way of ease reveals itself to you. Follow that path and then, tune in again when the desire for greater ease emerges. The way is not forced, but allowed. For more information about the art of allowing, you may visit my blog Beyond Abe.

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The Soul of Living

What is the soul of living? It is not the physical manifestation of our life, the circumstances and events that make it nor is it the series of actions that create our life. The soul of living is the spirit by which we live, the heart and soul through which we engage our life as well as its deeper meaning. Through this blog, I want to help you connect with the soul of living, sharing ways to inspire and connect to the deeper meaning of life.

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